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You’ve got to a point now where you are fed up with dating because they never are the right person for you. 


You are realising that actually this “wrong” person is the kind of person you’ve been having relationships with your whole life. 


It is frustrating because why is everyone else managing to find the right person and you can’t?


The reason may be your energy and your subconscious. You may not want to hear that it is you getting in your own way and attracting the person you don’t want, BUT this is good, because it means you can change who you attract. 


So, what am I talking about when it comes to your energy and subconscious? 


I’m talking about your resistances and blocks: your beliefs, thoughts, past relationship experiences, childhood experiences, triggers, emotional reactions, and a whole bunch of other stuff. 


There are lots of things that come into play here. I’m going to look at 3 of them (otherwise we’ll be here all day) and it is important to note that quite often they can be interlinked.



As a matchmaker I get asked this question a lot. It is a topic that I researched thoroughly before deciding to launch Match Made in Scotland. As someone who found their partner on a dating site 6 years ago I loath to say that it does not work however I have many people that come to me for my services and they would beg to differ. I think the real question is ‘Can online dating work?’ If you were to ask me this question I wouldn’t hesitate to say yes, as I know many people (myself included albeit 6 years ago) who have found their partners online. However, if you were to ask me “Does online dating work?” I would be reticent to say the same.

Here are 5 reasons why I think that being successful with online dating can be a challenge. 


Yes! you have done it! you have met a great person and are heading off on your first date! But you haven’t been on a date in a really long time and you are nervous. Don’t worry- we have got you. 
First impressions count. Scientists say that you make a judgement of someone within a tenth of a second of meeting them so it is extremely important to make the best first impression you can. 
We know that first dates can be extremely nerve-wracking however we have compiled some great tips to help. 



When you are in your 30s or older it seems like everywhere you look, everyone else has found their soulmate and you are the only one struggling to find the one. Although it may not seem like it, you are not alone. Men and women in their 30s are having the same problems when searching for love despite when social media tries to convey. Seeing Facebook and Instagram full of loved-up couples and happy families may make you wonder why you are finding it difficult to find your partner when others are seemingly living in bliss- here are a few reasons why. 


When it comes to dating, I think it is fair to say that it is probably everyone’s preference to meet their future partner organically whether that be in a bar, through friends or perhaps at work. Unfortunately it doesn’t always happen like that. It’s becoming increasingly more difficult to meet people in this way especially this year due to covid and constant lockdowns. The obvious solution is online dating sites and apps but for many reasons people are seeking other alternatives and the use of matchmakers has significantly increased over the last few years. If you are wondering if a matchmaking agency is right for you I compiled a list of 10 reasons why you should use a matchmaker.